Where there is love, there’s life. However, one must not forget that fights too are common in any relationship.
Conflicts are inevitable and unavoidable. There cannot be a perfect moment or there’s nothing called a perfect life or perfect relationship. One must learn to live with the imperfections. However, if it happens on a regular basis life becomes a struggle. Hence it’s better to work on ways to lessen them before it becomes a threat to your relationship.
Avoid ego clashes: Yes, each one is a special human being and has his own strengths and weaknesses. And it’s natural to assume that we are the best. However, in a relationship remember there’s a lot of sharing between two people. So whether it’s good or bad, be prepared to share the credit as well as blame with the same spirit. Remember it takes two to tango.
Be diplomatic: There might arise situations where the finger clearly points towards your partner’s fault. If he/she is mature enough to admit, fine. But when you know it won’t happen, be diplomatic and stay cool. There’s no point arguing with such a person expecting him/her to deliver an apology.
Analyze the reasons: Sometimes anger might be a result of work pressure or stress. If that is the case, try to put off the fight. The earlier you do it, the better it is. You will eventually realize there was no issue after all.
Douse the fire first: In case of a fire, first remedy would be to extinguish it rather than investigating the cause. Similarly, in a conflicting situation try and lessen the intensity of the fight by making peace. Many big fights start with a trivial reason. Hence, try not to get into an argument right away.
Give space: If you fight over a serious issue and know that it’s gonna turn ugly, then it’s wise to just leave the place. When emotions run high it’s best not to get into an argument that leads to bitter fights. At that point in time, all you need is time and space to think over the issue. So just flee the place and come back later when both of you are calm and in a situation to settle things across the table.
Don’t act in haste: Do not send furious messages or mails in a fit of rage. Wait for the right time to discuss things. Most importantly, this will also avoid any untoward incidents. For all you know, it may hurt your partner and leave a deep impact on his/her psyche.
Don’t get emotional: It’s natural for anyone to get hyper and lose temper during fights. However, remember it’ll only spoil your health. Try as much to keep a check on your anger and solve issues peacefully.
Don’t bottle up: If you or your partner is the inexpressive types, it’s even more dangerous. As much as verbal fights and arguments are bad for a relationship so is non-expression. Bottling up negative feelings harms relationships. So try and solve it then and there itself without postponing. Sit down and tell your partner about how you feel, it helps a great deal to communicate.
Show you care: No matter how ugly your fight was, do try to act normal. This will erase any ill-feelings that your partner would have towards you. It’s important to make the other person feel wanted and cared for.